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8 KINDS OF SEX EVERY COUPLE SHOULD HAVE!!!!

Happy couples don’t just have sex – they have ‘make up sex’, comfort sex”: even ‘get-to-sleep sex’..And they’re all vital in their own way.
The one thing all physically compatible couples share is a strong sexual connection. This is evident in their overall approach to sex- be it a favorite bedroom activity or their shared erotic fantasies. Here are some common sexual themes in couples. What’s yours?

1 EXPLORER SEX

There’s nothing like lying next to the man you’ve known and loved for a long time, thinking, 'wow, we have never done that before’. Sex is a bit like chocolate ice cream; it’s great the first time you eat it, but if you eat it every day, you’ll have to be a bit creative to keep it satisfying,’ says consultant psychiatrist Dr. Adrian Wang.
While it may not be possible to have passionate to try and keep things exciting. This is possible if a couple is willing to explore and push each other’s sexual boundaries. ‘Being creative in the bedroom means you’re doing things to keep your partner happy – and that, in itself, is an expression of love ‘, adds Dr Wang. ‘So if you’re only used certain positions, try a new one: if you’re used to stimulation by body parts alone, experiment with other items, for instance a feather. Communication is the key. You need to tell your partner what you need and what turns you on’

Plan for good sex; it may mean taking off together on a weekend or even buying new underwear – little things you know will put you in the right mood. Pushing your boundaries will also build trust between you two.

2 MAINTENANCE SEX

'Some couples think that everything has to feel perfect, or that you must both be in the mood to have sex. But if everyone waited for that, sex wouldn’t happen ever often, ‘says Dr. Anita Clayton, author of satisfaction: women, sex and the quest for intimacy.

That’s where maintenance sex comes in. ‘sex is the one activity a couple has that excludes all other people, ‘explains Dr Clayton. ‘It keeps your bond unique and strong.’
By making a habit of it, you’re building opportunities for that connection in your lives. Take Michelle, 33, a mother of two toddlers. ‘My husband is always happy to have sex, but as a new mother, I’m tired all the time. But when I make the effort, I seem much closer to my husband afterwards.’ And let’s not forget how regular sex helps your health - it relieves stress, burns calories about boosts your mood.

3 EMBARRASSING MOMENT SEX

It’s bound to happen: one of you suddenly get a cramp in your leg – and shriek in pain! As embarrassing as this may be, it’s a good reminder that sex is a raw act. It’s not meant to be flawless.
Your ability to deal with a red-in-the-face moment – whether you laugh if off or give each other a sympathetic squeeze – says a lot about the strength of your bond. So don’t worry!!

4 HOLIDAY SEX

'My husband and I had the best love – making experience recently in Thailand, ‘says Lin, 36 a mother of two. ‘our room was on the top floor of hotel, with floor- to- ceiling windows overlooking the sea, so it felt like were having sex outdoors.
Ah, the turn-on effect of the sun, sand and sea. If your love life is getting jaded, it’s often your surroundings that are getting stale, not your partner. As you’re at your most relaxed on holidays, you tend to try most relaxed on holidays, you tend to try new things, such as having sex on an empty beach, or, like Lin, have what feels like sex in public.

5 MAKE UP SEX

It’s been said you shouldn’t go to bed angry. Sometimes, you can take that further – by going to bed happy after a quarrel,’ says Dr Clayton.
But, be warned: ‘some couples pick fights just to make up, ‘says Dr Clayton. Others ignore their real problems and have sex instead. If the only time you’re getting along is in bed, you need to face your issues with your clothes on first.

6 CUDDLE SEX

It’s the journey that really matters in life, not the destination. That is true for sex too. Every sexual experience should not be merely focused on achieving an orgasm.
In fact, this type of ‘cuddle sex’ is good for bonding. ‘Sex isn’t all about ‘finishing off’. It’s getting to the finishing line that’s important. Kissing and holding each other are important elements. Couples can give each other pleasure doing these things – even if it tires them out to the point of being too sleepy to finish off, ‘says Dr Wang.

7 COMFORT SEX

If you’re feeling sad, depressed or lonely, sex can be the perfect antidote because it’s the opposite of all those things- it’s about being warm, close loving and alive. Says Yvonne, 39, ‘last year my mother-in-law had Parkison’s disease; my father had major heart surgery and my mother developed Alzheimer’s. My husband and I spent a lot of time in bed comforting each other. For us, it was important. It makes you remember why you’re living.
‘Grief can drive a wedge between couples, ‘says Dr Clayton, nothing that partners sometimes blame themselves or each other, during a loss. ‘But sex can help restore the intimate relationship you have. Instead of letting grief pull you apart, use it to pull you closer.’

8 WILD, WILD SEX

You know the kind- wild, sweetly, dizzy sex. Dr Wang reckons that if you’re having it years into marriage, ‘you still can connect physically and emotionally and that itself is reaffirming to a couple.’And if you’re keen to have a baby, the mote sex, the merrier- so it doesn’t matter how long or how often you do the deed. Says Dr Andrew Kan, a reproductive endocrinology and infertility specialist: ‘trying out different varieties of sex also enables the couple not to think of it as a chore.’
And finally, let’s not forget how sensuous love-making keeps your eyes sparkling, your body gummy and your soul smiling – so enjoy!!

Article from The Malaysia Women’s Weekly
August 2009..